TRUST

Malam ini ngobrol ngalor ngidul dengan temanku. Karena udah lama gak ketemu di dunia maya dan dia tidak bisa hadir di pernikahanku dgn kriwil awal Februari lalu. Jadilah kami membahas soal acara2nya, ungkapan selamat bahagia dari hati, dan unjuk2 foto (narsis neeeh hihi). Selanjutnya eh jadi nyasar ke soal kehidupan di Singapura ini juga kehidupan berkeluarga. Panjang deh kalo diceritain semua disini.

Nah, temanku memberikan nasihat yang bagus banget buat semua yang bersuami-istri.
Kita semua setuju bahwa "TRUST" atau kepercayaan adalah landasan utama dari sebuah hubungan.

Temanku mengartikan TRUST untuk suami dan istri sebagai berikut:

T = Terima ; apapun kelebihan dan kekurangan
R = Rileks ; atas semua masalah
U = Usaha ; usaha, menerima dan rileks, tapi ada usaha untuk mengatasinya
S = Seks ; apapun, tetaplah nge-seks karena itulah komunikasi batin
T = Tunggu ; kalau sudah terima,rileks,usaha dan seks, tunggu saja hasilnya pasti ada

Makasih ya Ia, penafsiranmu tepat banget. Aku dan Kriwil kan berusaha untuk menerapkannya.
Buat teman2, mungkin bisa jadi masukan juga :)

meskipun

Quote dari milis Mario Teguh

Keberanian adalah kesediaan
untuk melakukan yang 'meskipun'.

Seorang yang berani, bersedia melakukan sesuatu yang penting bagi kecemerlangan hidupnya, .

meskipun dia belum berpengalaman
meskipun dia tidak memiliki uang untuk itu
meskipun banyak orang meragukan kesempatan keberhasilannya

meskipun telah banyak orang gagal dalam upaya yang sama
meskipun sama sekali tidak ada jaminan
meskipun sebetulnya dia sangat ketakutan

dan

meskipun lebih mungkin baginya untuk gagal.

Keberanian adalah kesediaan
untuk melakukan yang 'meskipun'.

(Mario Teguh, Post to MTSuperClub, 15 Mei 2007)

like attracts like

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We are all Architects of our own future!
The thoughts that we have today dictate what our future holds for us tomorrow.
Therefore a person who has positive thoughts shall have positive results
Just as a person who has negative thoughts shall attract negative results in their life.
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Lately i have encountered topic about "Law of Attraction" from TV talk shows, articles in newspaper.
Well, i suppose everybody understands about this interesting popular topic now.
I am not going to blablabla further about what it's all about.
Anyway, i got the above quote from my daily devotional subscription.
Simple straight forward concept, to conclude all the talks and debates.

I notice my surroundings, family, friends, colleague and myself. I sometime nags about what I DON"T
have, why things AREN'T according to my wishes, why others treated me like this and that.
Those who form their opinion about situation whether a job, or people before they got enough information/perspective. Well, when i am in that state, i am not happy.

I am in constant learning to appreciate what God has given me. When i tend to nag, i remember my blessings.
Good or bad, comfortable or discomfort things in my life are being granted to teach me something. So, that i may grow and mature. As Paulo Coelho wrote in his "Warrior of The Light" Manual as follow:

A warrior of light knows that certain moments repeat themselves.
He often finds himself faced by the same problems and situations, and seeing these difficult situations return,
he grows depressed, thinking that he is incapable of making any progress in life.
‘I've been through all this before,’ he says to his heart. ‘Yes, you have been through all this before,’ replies his heart.
‘But you have never been beyond it.’
Then the warrior realizes that these repeated experiences have but one aim: to teach him what he does not want to learn.

Thus, to live my journey passionately, easier, happier. I am striving for living positively, feeling positively, so i shall attract positive results , and harmoniously with the universe.

Tough duty....yet, i want to be happy....so i must attract happiness with being happy.

30

a new decade
a new chapter of my life

Dear Lord,

bless me with Your Love and Grace
may i be Your reflection
may i be Your extended hand to those who are in need

let me be stronger
let me be more loving
let me be wiser

for i am nothing without You

Amen

cinta dan ego

seorang sahabat berkata padaku:

Cinta dan Ego bagaikan 2 sisi mata uang, Yin dan Yang.
Tidak bersifat positif maupun negatif. Kesatuan 2 sisi yang bersifat netral.

Hakikat mendasar manusia adalah untuk MENcintai.
Dan ego dasar kita adalah untuk DIcintai.
Cinta dan Ego 2 kutub yang berlawanan. 2 Hal yang harus ada dalam setiap hubungan
Dan bagaikan 2 sisi mata uang berbeda kutub,namun saling mengikat.
Dan bila kita tidak hati-hati, bisa mengacaukan dan membingungkan hubungan.

Ketakutan, kekhawatiran kita adalah bagian dari ego, yang melemahkan
Cinta Yang Menguatkan

AntiEGO adalah CINTA
AntiCINTA adalah EGO

EGO MEMISAHKAN
CINTA MENYATUKAN

TO LOVE.......in the purest form

i love you

home is where the heart is

no matter where we are

home is where the heart is...

it need not be a house

cause a house is not a home when you're heart is not there

so true...it's just undeniable

a home is where we can be ourselves and at ease

a home is where we turn for refuge

where is my home?

Expectation Reduces Happiness

I wrote this back in 2006

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A good friend of mine once told me, "expectation reduces happiness".

He explained, most of the time (for not saying ALWAYS) people tend to have high expectations for everything. Whether it's situation at work, expectation that others would do or say that please us, or just about weather. When things are not the way we like them to be, we become unhappy, sad, disappointed. On the contrary, when we receive or experience good things that are not expected, we become happy, feel so lucky.

That explains the phrase "expectation reduces happiness". My friend made a good point. This mental state helps him to stay grounded and prevent disappointments over silly matters.

A simple statement, yet it is so true..........i am still trying to keep that in mind. Every time i become 'unhappy' over something that i should not waste too much of energy fretting about.

How about you guys?....

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Well, its mid of year 2007 already. I still use the phrase often, to my self and to my friends. Ah, maybe it's wiser to say that it is alright to have expectations, but we ought to strive to keep our expectations GROUNDED. Another good friend of mine keep reminding myself with this phrase this past semester "manage your expectations"

In the midst of emotions, ego, feelings, confusions, sentimental atmosphere. It's easy to get carried away and lose our perspectives. And to stay grounded with our hopes and expectations. So darn difficult huh? well at least for me.

I believe that all that comes my way are learning process to complete my soul.

Still.....in completion process....till my dying day

rasa

kita tidak pernah tahu.....

kenapa rasa itu datang...
kenapa rasa itu pergi....
kenapa rasa itu tidak datang jua....
kenapa rasa itu tidak pergi saja....

kapan rasa itu datang...
kapan rasa itu pergi...

apa karena kita tidak mengijinkannya datang...
karena kita takut....
takut kalau dia pergi...
takut kalau tidak mampu mengendalikannya...
takut kalau harus kehilangannya...

dan kita tidak mengijinkannya pergi...
setelah rasa itu memenuhi hari-hari ...
memenuhi seluruh kepala dan logika....
menguasai seluruh hati...
membutakan seluruh jiwa....

perlukah alasan?
perlukah penjelasan?
perlukah pembenaran?
perlukah pembelaan?

Regret

There are four things you cannot recover:

the stone after the throw,
the word after it is said,
the occasion after the loss,
the time after its gone.

I read this in one of newly favored Indonesian columnist, Samuel Mulia. He quoted his friend in his weekly column of Kompas Daily. Read on from here.

So true, we might regret what we throw, words which we've said, occasion which we've loss and the time after it's gone.

We might regret for not doing things differently, might regret for saying the words or even regret for NOT saying it.

I am in constant learning for not regretting anything.
Everything must have it's purpose in our journey.

The Keys to My Heart

You are attracted to those who are unbridled, untrammeled, and free.

In love, you feel the most alive when your lover is creative and never lets you feel bored.

You'd like to your lover to think you are loyal and faithful... that you'll never change.

You would be forced to break up with someone who was insecure and in constant need of reassurance.

Your ideal relationship is lasting. You want a relationship that looks to the future... one you can grow with.

Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment.

You think of marriage as something precious. You'll treasure marriage and treat it as sacred.

In this moment, you think of love as commitment. Love only works when both people are totally devoted.

Choose

Baru selesai dan sedang membaca The monk who sold his ferarri by Robin Sharma and Neuro Linguistic Programming for dummies jadi terbuka mata...kalo:

we are the master of our own destiny, the power of mind....gak maksud melupakan Tuhan..terlepas dari konsep religi dan keimanaan..gue tetep percaya kalo Tuhan lah Maha segala...yet...sbagai makhluk ciptaan Tuhan tertinggi..kita diberikan privilege untuk MEMILIH

contoh:
mengenai jodoh...kalau kita dalam hubungan terus gak jadi..dibilang gak jodoh.
Apakah bisa kita aminkan, suami/istri itu adalah jodoh yg Tuhan tentukan untuk kita?
Kalo ternyata suami/istri kita tidak sesuai dengan harapan kita...lalu kita bilang...yah sudah jodohnya...

bukankah ini hanya kalimat pembenaran supaya hati dan jiwa tidak 'terlalu' kecewa'?

Kita diberikan kebebasan untuk memilih jalan hidup kita. Dan semua kembali kepada kita bagaimana menyikapi pilihan2 yang telah kita lakukan.

Kalo pilihan kita bagus...dan sesuai atau bahkan melebihi apa yang kita idamkan...kita berada di surga....
Tapi bila sebaliknya..dan kita tidak puas..dan merasa pahit dan kecewa...kita hidup dalam neraka...

so surga dan neraka......state of mind....kita yang memilih ingin berada di bagian yang mana.

Kita bisa berada dalam keadaan kecewa, marah, pahit akan situasi dan keadaan..akan orang2 di sekitar kita....dan we are constantly in self pity mode...WHY? WHY this happen to me? WHY the other person/other people do what they did to me? what did i do wrong?
dah kayak encyclopedia aja....why, what, and so on..and so on...

Butuh hati dan jiwa yang lapang dan kesadaran akan perasaan dan pikiran kita. Baik maupun buruk...kita tidak dapat menguasai atau menentukan bagaimana orang lain bersikap/berbuat/berkata2........hanya kita sendiri yang punya otoritas penuh untuk pikiran dan perasaan kita.

Kebanyakan dari kita( termasuk gue sendiri) lebih mudah menjadi reaktif.......kita harus belajar untuk lebih bijak dalam bereaksi terhadap input2 dari skitar kita..jelas, hal yang tidak dapat kita kontrol. Yang bisa kita kontrol bagaiamana kita meresponnya....

Dan sekarang.....gue masih belajar...dan belajar..dan belajarrrrrr....oh Lord, help me ....

Left or Right?

You Are Right Brained In Love

Bit of a drama queen Peacemaker, first to end a fight Good at thinking up creative dates Tend to fall in love and get hurt easily Going with your gut instead of your head Emphathetic and caring, sometimes to a fault Good at recognizing patterns in relationships Been in love many times, perhaps too many to count Wildly passionate and intense when falling in love Spontaneous with relationships, going with the flow Overly visual - can play back past dates like movies in your mind Roses, love poems, and stuffed animals are a good start to winning your heart ttp://ynr.blogthings.com/areyourightbrainedorleftbrainedinlovequiz/

What Kind of Coffee Are You?

What Kind of Coffee Are You?
http://www.blogthings.com/whatkindofcoffeeareyouquiz/


And my result:


***You are a Black Coffee***


At your best, you are: low maintenance, friendly, and adaptable

At your worst, you are: cheap and angsty

You drink coffee when: you can get your hands on it

Your caffeine addiction level: high